getting nervous about failure

So the last few days I've been getting really nervous about failure.  I've been eating way past when I'm full and still at times making bad choices.  I'm trying to tune into what are trigger foods for me and staying away from them.  For example, Trader Joes has these Cheese Puffs, one serving is not that bad but when you eat the whole damn bag, that's a problem.  I had fast food this weekend and it never agrees with me and actually when I take my time and eat it and not inhale it, it actually tastes pretty nasty.  I dont know what to do, I'm only 2 weeks from surgery and I absolutely cannot fail!  I can't, not again.  I always start off the day well, getting my protein in, drinking all my water and its night time that gets me down.  I need to figure out what to do about this.  I can't do this after surgery.

 It is totally different when you have the surgery because i was just like you before i got the surgery i was hungry all the time and i know i could still eat it so it made it a lot harder for me. But i know from what i feel like i don't feel like eating at all now i have eat to take my pills and get my protein but its not like I'm eating because I'm hungry. So you will be fine it is normal to feel this way right before your surgery. And do you have to do a pre-op diet?

I dont have to do a preop diet, just high protein low card but no liquid diet, until 2 days before hand.

It might also be your head, sweetie.  Its ok to be scared... my defense mechanism was to eat as well... hell, it still is!

But, I do guarantee you... you will NOT be able to eat after surgery or you will get sick.  Its just how the body heals, but I really believe you need to get into the right frame of mind.

What about seeing the nutritionist again, just to make sure everything is peachy for post op.  And you are NOT going to fail this time :)

You won't fail!!!! you will do wonderful!

What if you stayed away from the cheese puff isle for a while? Just don't tempt yourself. Plan out your snacks and try to make them protein. LIke have a serving of nuts, or have another shake or drink some crystal lite.

The head issues take a while to adjust to your surgery, but fortunately, WLS FORCES you to at least be moderately compliant...it is very different afterwards...there just isnt enough room for the whole bag!!!
I see you're going with the VSG...a wonderful restrictive surgery...so knowing that you have an issue with volume eating, you won't really have that option post-op!

Start logging in your food choices now...fitday is a great program...sometimes SEEING your choices add up is enough to scare you into submission....it also helps to plan your meals and "treats" ahead without blowing your day completely....you'll be surprised at how much you CAN enjoy when you do a little planning!

CONGRATS for being so honest with yourself...that's a huge step towards success...
Good Luck to you!
xxxBecca

hey,

I also wanted to give you some serious props for being honest and acknowledging what's going on. I've had a little bit of the same general stuff going on, vastly fluxuating, as I gear up for my surgery. I read a book that, though I felt I was condescending at the time (I HATE self-help stuff usually), was very useful and practical even if it had stuff I didn't like as much. The book is called The Emotional First Aid Kit- A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery by Cynthia L. Alexander. I decided that since I'm so afraid to fail, I'm gonna invest everything I have into not failing... and this book had some practical ideas for me, well organized so I can find it if I'm having a particular problem. Just skimming through it, I saw where I'd underlined in the section on exercise, which is a problem of mine, the 5-minute plan. Basically, it's like, get a schedule and stick to it- if you have trouble skipping, tell yourself you will go ahead and do it for five minutes, and at the end if you want to stop you may. That way you get in your workout clothes and get started, and often, finish the whole thing, and if not, you gave it a legit effort. There's also info there for what to do to deal with stress, how to get back on your feet if you've been cheating, etc.

You may also want to think about discussing this with someone- your surgeon, dietician, or a psychologist. Even though everyone's right, things will change after surgery, a lot of the behavioral factors obese people deal with are not solved by surgery, and starting on the path to getting them under control can greatly aid your weight loss progression. It sounds a little machine-like for me to say that, but I'm struggling through it myself right now so I definitely can empathize. Good luck, keep us updated!

Ann

This surgery is only a tool not a miracle - you wont be 'cured' over night and YOU will need to put in a lot of hard work to change your years of bad habits. Its not easy now because you dont have the tool, after surgery you will find it easier due to physical limitations but it wont fix the mental aspect - that part is up to you. Remember its a process and it will take time - my personal experence has been at least 1 year, if not more, that you need to dedicate to working everything out - not only to lose the weight but to be able to keep it off for life. You will get bumps and bruises along the way - its definately not the 'easy way out' as some think - but you have to be dilligent, learn from mistakes and keep on moving forward.

I know for me pre-op two things helped me mentally.   One my surgeon said he has seen patients gain 10-25 pounds before surgery, and it really stinks to see them work so hard their first month to come back down to where they were the first time they saw him.   Second, I looked at it like I have had 25 years of "last meals" I didn't need to over do it before my surgery.   Don't get me wrong I am human, I did have some things that I wanted one last time but I didn't feel like I needed an endless supply of it.   Best of luck and keep us posted! ~ Leslie